1. Instant gratification
You want something, it comes to you so quickly and effortlessly that it became necessary. You need information, you type something and it comes out, within seconds. Speeding things up did not help in making you a better person because what we have become is demanding, unappreciative and stupid.
Truth is if you want something, you probably have to go through some hardship before you get what’s worth it. Generally, anything that comes easy aren’t good stuff.
2. Validation
You post a photo up, and you expect likes and comments because you need people’s validation of “your good life”. You need people to tell you the clothes you wear are chic, the things you buy are trendy, the places you go to are cool. Why?
Truth is you don’t need a constant affirmation of what you eat, what you do, who you hang out with. You don’t need the number of likes to tell you if you should do what you do.
3. Attachment
To things. To people. To food. To places. Losing a phone impacts you more than losing virginity? Having to call your boyfriend/ girlfriend every hour of your life to report what you are doing? Eating the same thing everyday because it tastes familiar? Walking the same route everyday because it feels safe?
Change. Figure what’s more important. Learn to detach. Let go. Only when you learn to be truly content with yourself, are you able to spread the love. Only when you learn to let go you know how to love. Life is transient, it is filled with impermanence. Rivers flow, things change, people change, you can only be happy when you learn how to flow with life.
If we continue as such, what will happen is degradation of human quality. Everyone just become living vessels that are enticed by easy “feel good” factors, and no one will be able to experience true intrinsic happiness.
Let’s change. A valid concern might not be a necessary outcome, only if we do something to change it.
By: Fang Xian Tan
